Catalyst Question: What do I want?

Mar 3, 2015


In this new feature, I will pose a question every week. Catalyst Questions are meant to encourage self-reflection and open you up to new possibilities!

What do I want?

This seemingly simple question is underrated. In many of my conversations with coaching clients, I notice a recurring theme. I have noticed that when we’re facing important decisions, we tend to weigh the options taking into account expectations of our loved ones, friends and peers and think of what we are “supposed to do.” This leads us to look outside ourselves and try to “fit” the world.

While it is important to consider those around us, we are sometimes missing our own point of view. By turning inward to ask ourselves what WE want, we can find greater fulfillment and happiness.

Some considerations that can help you answer “What do you want” are:

  • What are you most passionate about in life?
  • What makes you happy? What do you look forward to when you wake up in the morning?
  • What’s been the most satisfying thing you’ve done? What made it so fulfilling?

We should consider this question deeply, yet it does not mean that we will alienate our loved ones and peers. Instead, there should be a balance and we can’t forsake our own desires and calling because we are too pressured by external forces.

I encourage you to pause and think about this Catalyst Question. Who knows where the answer might lead you! Feel free to share some of your answers in the comments below!

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  1. What a thought provoking topic. It is so easy to get caught up in what you should do and what others want you to do that it is easy to forgot to consider what you want. I am in the process of buying a house and I keep thinking out what choice my parents would want me to make and what would be convenient for my sister and nieces. It wasn’t until recently that I really thought about the type of house I wanted and what would make me happiest. It was very freeing to finally say “this is the house I want” without having to rationalize or justify it. I am going to try to be more mindful of this going forward.

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